You’re probably familiar with how fond real estates are of saying, “Location, location, location!” when they’re trying to sell somebody a “fixer upper”. They do their best to point out that, despite the place is a dumb, it’s something you can fix up. The thing you can’t fix is where it’s located, and that location, many times, is the most important part of the deal.
Much of the same can be said regarding relationships. In other words, if you want a successful relationship, it’s all about “Communication, communication, communication.” Sure, you can have an “okay” relationship, but the only way you’re ever going to make it more than it is, or keep it maintained, is by communicating with each other. Yes, I realize this seems like an incredibly simple concept, but it’s true. If you’re not talking to each other and sharing your heart – then you’re not communicating. By not communicating, you’re not getting to know each other.
This sharing of yourselves is the only way you’ll ever learn everything you need to know about your partner. This, in turn, helps you to know what they want and need from you in a relationship. It also lets them know what you want and need from them. If no one ever talks about anything but the weather and what you’ll have for dinner that night, you’re likely to wake up one day realizing you’re strangers. I get it, you may think you’re content in your relationship, but when you’re not really communicating – this relationship isn’t going anywhere.
Think back to when you first met. Like many new couples, you probably talked, and talked, and TALKED. For most people, that’s one of the most exciting times of their relationship. It’s something you have to keep going. This is why you see so many couples divorcing after 20 or 25 years. They don’t communicate with each other anymore, and after the kids are grown, there’s literally nothing holding them together anymore. They realize the don’t know each other.
Although it can seem like a daunting task, and maybe a little awkward in the beginning, communicating is a a pretty simple task. If you’re not sure where to start, simply ask a question or two, like “What’s something I don’t know about you?”, or “If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be, and why?” These types of questions usually get the ball rolling. Your relationship will thank you for it.