If you’re here, that means you’re probably struggling with something. Maybe it’s that you’ve got so much going on at work, and you don’t know how to handle it. It could be that you’re having trouble at home. Maybe your wife or girlfriend just doesn’t “get” it.
Maybe you’re not even sure what’s wrong. But what you do know, is that you’re unhappy.
We understand. You’re a guy, so you’re not supposed to have feelings, right? It’s just kind of expected that you’re going to be the “strong and silent” type. But what happens when you actually do have something you need to share? Is it because of how you were raised? Or because of how society tells you that you have to be? Maybe it’s because you don’t really know how to get stuff off your chest.
What is wrong with me?
The thought of going to somebody else to talk about your problems probably makes you a little nauseous, right? It can be scary to admit things to a complete stranger that you wouldn’t even feel comfortable telling to your best friend. But that’s one of the greatest things about counseling for men. Our offices are safe, judgement-free places. Even if you don’t know what in the world is wrong with you, and you just need to get everything under control again, you’re in the right place. We work with guys who are struggling in their relationships, trouble with friendships, recovering from affairs, and struggling with addictions to pornography.
What is counseling all about?
Before we tell you what it’s about – we need to tell you what counseling isn’t:
- It’s not a place where you’re going to be judged for your mistakes
- It’s not a place where you’ll be made made fun of for having feelings
- It’s not a place where you’ll be told what to do
Christian counseling for men is all about helping you find the answers you’re searching for, and giving you the tools to help you along the way. You know yourself better than anyone else does, and our job is to help you learn how to share that in an effective way for those you care about. We’ll work with you as you learn to be a better communicator, and how you learn to process what you’re struggling with.
What to expect
First and foremost, we strive to make my office one of the most comfortable places you’ll find yourself. It’s a place where people have talked about the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you come here, no matter what you’ve done, no matter what you say, you’re not judged and you’re not condemned. We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things we’re not proud of. And there are things we all wish we could take back. While you can’t change the past, you can come in confident that whatever you share and whatever you say stays between you and your therapist. And no matter what you reveal – you’re in a safe place to share your heart.
In counseling, we’ll walk through the struggles you’re facing and look to see what brought you there. We’re not so much interested in beating you over the head with the mistakes you’ve made, but rather, where you can go from here. We’ll look at what God says about the situation and how He calls us to live. You’ll have the opportunity to learn about your needs – how to put them into words – and your strengths and weaknesses.
What you’ll learn
Since counseling is a little different for everyone, we’ll start right where you are and depending on your unique situation. For many, as you begin understanding how God created you and you learn your own identity, we’ll use different resources to help you get past whatever issue you’re struggling with. Sometimes, it may be a workbook, or some type of work to take home with you between sessions, or maybe some reading or journaling. Your process through counseling can be just as unique as you are. But ultimately, what you’ll walk away with is a sense of God’s love and grace, no matter what you’ve been through.
Zakk Gammon, MA, LCPC works with guys who are struggling to find purpose, significance and meaning in life, as well as men who are having a hard time communicating with the people they love and sharing their heart.
Zakk’s approach to counseling is to help men find strength and reassurance in their situation, as they learn how to effectively communicate and improve their life.
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