The number of people struggling with pornography addiction is staggering. Porn addictions are real and incredibly painful, not just for the person with the addiction, but for their spouse as well. And it’s not just men. One out of six women, including Christians, admit struggling with pornography in their own life.
Is This Really a Big Deal?
Porn addiction is a symptom of a core problem. And giving yourself a “dry-out period” by willing yourself to stay away from pornography may work for a short while, but the likelihood of it lasting long-term is pretty slim. It’s not just you, and that doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Millions of people in the United States deal with porn addiction. So many people struggle, in fact, that in 2016, the state of Utah passed legislation calling pornography a public health crisis, and in time, many more states will likely follow.
There are some important things to understand about a pornography addiction:
- You’ve got to get real about the addiction. It sounds like a cliche, but it’s true. Awareness is the first step of solving a problem. Admitting that you can’t do this on your own, and that you need help, puts you in the frame of mind to begin to look at the things that have brought you to this point. It’s important to remember that being a Christian doesn’t exempt you from sexual temptation.
- Understand that spiritual surrender is key. Allowing God to work through your problem allows Him to heal the parts of you that feel broken.
- You’ll have to make some changes. Changing behaviors, attitudes, and situations will be necessary to make long-lasting changes.
The facts are sobering, but that doesn’t mean you’re hopeless.
- 47% of Christian families say pornography is a problem in their home.
- Internet use is now a significant factor in two out of every three divorces.
- 67% of men ages 18-26 believe viewing porn is acceptable.
- 48% of women ages 18-26 believe viewing porn is okay.
- 90% of children ages 8-16 have already viewed pornography.
- The average pornography exposure is 11-years-old.
- 50% of pastors admit to currently struggling or previously struggling with an addiction to porn.
Can I Actually Get Help?
We’ve worked with countless people who’ve come to us looking to stop these heartbreaking and destructive behaviors, but can never stay away from it long-term. This experience helps us to understand the reason you haven’t been successful in the past is because you never had the opportunity to get to the root of the problem. In counseling for porn addiction, we’ll look at the HOW and WHY you’re struggling, not just the symptoms, so you’ll finally be able to stop for good.
What to Expect
First and foremost, we strive to make the office one of the most comfortable places you’ll find yourself. It’s a place where people have talked about the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you come here, no matter what you’ve done, no matter what you say, you’re not judged and you’re not condemned. We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things we’re not proud of. And there are things we all wish we could take back. While you can’t change the past, you can come in confident that whatever you share and whatever you say stays between you and your therapist. And no matter what you reveal – you’re in a safe place to share your heart.
In counseling, we’ll walk through the struggles you’re facing and look to see what brought you there. We’re not so much interested in beating you over the head with the mistakes you’ve made, but rather, where you can go from here. We’ll look at what God says about the situation and how He calls us to live. You’ll have the opportunity to learn about your needs – how to put them into words – and your strengths and weaknesses.
Clinicians who provide Counseling for Porn Addiction:
Zakk Gammon, PhD, LCPC, BCMFT
270.926.6957 X 103
Dr. Zakk Gammon is a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor, Board Certified Marriage & Family Therapist and Advanced Certified Temperament Counselor serving clients in our Owensboro office.